Picking up right from where we left off…
5. You’ve played with a lot of guys. Can you list some of your favorites? [You’d better list yours truly, lol]
Of course you’re on the list TiedFeetGuy!!
“Played with a lot of guys”, that makes me sound kinda slutty which I kind of like. To be honest it hasn’t felt like that many since I have many more kinksters I would love to play with for the first time and many I would love to play with again. I always try to find something novel and enjoyable in each and every play partner I have the luck of meeting in person. That said I do have experiences and kinksters that definitely stand out as I look back on the 8 or so years I’ve been doing this. I give you a list but they are in no particular order, other than whatever order they popped into my memory.
1) TiedFeetGuy – This was a dream come true for various reasons. I’ve been following your blogs for a while and so glad you made one devoted to captured heroes, which is a major fetish of mine. You seemed to know really well what buttons to push that got me very horny and I’m glad we had a good long while to play. Some highlights that stood out to me from our meeting were definitely the tying up in the car, the closet scene and [spoilers] being led around on a leash as Spiderman. That hitachi wand was also amazing
2) Tynan Fox – Like with you, I had been following Tynan’s work for a while before I finally got to play with him. We had always been too far away with him being in the mid-west and me in the southwest; but when I moved to Iowa for graduate school I was close enough that we actually were able to meet. He was a great guy outside of the scene but when he dommed that was amazing. He hit a nice balance of care, teasing and taunting that blew my mind. Some highlights that stand out in my mind from that time visiting him was when he drove me to Minneapolis while I was trussed up in the back of a car.
3) Tennesota86 – Another mid-westerner I met when I lived in Iowa. Tennesota was a really great ropes man. We met on my first trip to play with Tynan and kept talking after that. When I had the opportunity I went back up to visit him and the weekend there was really fun. I got tied up as Spidey in this beautiful rope work, which are some of my favorite pics to this day. We also had some group sessions that were tantalizing such as some predicament bondage and a surprise kidnapping that I still remember with a bit of a pre-cum drip.
4) Guysinjeopardy – I remember watching old Bondage Jeopardy videos when I was younger; I realized I loved superhero bondage and traps when I finally saw Power Play. That early video had a bunch of hot guys getting kidnapped and tied up and some of those scenes formed the basis of several hero scenes I have had since. When Kevin messaged me saying he wanted to collaborate on a superhero video I was floored. My superhero fetish had always been something I largely kept to myself, sharing only with guys I roleplayed with. The opportunity to help craft a character and a story was amazing. Filming with him and the great guys he works with was fun and though I felt nervous the whole time I also fantasized about the scenes we did on film. I can’t wait to see the final product but playing with Kevin stands out as a monumental experience.
I’ve had some amazing times playing with other guys who I wish I could elaborate on but for the sake of space I won’t go into detail. Metrowish, Kitlvrr and Lockemeup were a couple of great guys I got to play with, unfortunately our sessions were short due to time contraints. I really hope we get to meet again and play for a longer period of time.
6. Do you have a favorite scene that sticks out in your memory?
I would have to say my second time playing with Tynan Fox still stands out in my memory. Part of it was because it was my first time playing with a person I consider a “pro”. Up until that point I played with guys like me, amateurs still trying to figure things out in terms of bondage, what we liked or didn’t like. A lot of my early play was also very short, no longer than a few hours. The trip I took to visit Tynan was a whole weekend and involved so much play that it’s still hard for me to remember every detail.
That first scene we did went something like this. We had agreed that while I was driving from Iowa to Minnesota I would wear some gear under my clothes. I had decided on a Spiderman suit. I drove up, four hours wearing it all the while letting the anticipation build. He had messaged me that he might be gone when I arrived but that he would leave me a way to get in. We had talked about the kind of scenes we could do and what I would be interested in. So the entire drive I fantasized about the kinds of stuff we had talked about. When I finally got to his place I was ecstatic, I was definitely hard as I approached the door. There were instructions on how to get in. I walked in and there was a note on a chair for me to leave my stuff there, strip and head upstairs. I did as the note commanded, wondering if I were being watched.
I followed a series of notes upstairs to an attic. It was kind of chilly but I had yet to see any sign that any one was there other than myself. Still I couldn’t shake the feeling I was being watched. The notes pointed to a chair where a gag, blindfold, rope and cuffs were laid. There was a list of instructions to put the cuffs on, then the gag, then sit on the chair with the rope lying on my thighs. I did it all in the order the list said, my heart was racing. Once that was done I was supposed to sit there and wait in silence with my arms behind the chair. I still remember the feeling of waiting with anticipation, hearing every creak and sound of the attic, wondering if that was Tynan moving toward me. I had also told him how much I wanted to be involved in a group scene and we had talked about me being carried, blindfolded into a dungeon with other guys there waiting to play with me.
So while I sat there in silence I imagined what lay ahead of me. Would it even be Tynan who greeted me or would it be a group of guys? How on display was I? I think I was so wrapped up in those thoughts that I hadn’t heard anyone come up behind me. The first thing I felt was a hand grab my crotch and a voice, Tynan’s, whisper “Stay Still”. He proceeded to tie me to the chair and grope me. He taunted me as I moaned into the gag. It was an amazing experience and a great opening to a fun weekend. I just hope it was as fun for him as it was for me.
7. Are you a comic fan outside kink?
Of course I am a comic fan outside of kink, though I have to admit I haven’t been keeping up with comics like I used to. I have mostly abandoned collecting individual monthlies and instead have begun reading trade copies where they pull together volumes of specific comics. I find it’s a good way to catch up on stories and takes somewhat less space to store them. The drawback is I am usually months behind everyone else lol. The last comic I collected by month was Teen Titans. I’d been a fan of theirs ever since I was a kid and followed that roster from Young Justice to Teen Titans and into the New 52.
I was initially excited about the new direction DC took with New 52, especially with the introduction of Bunker, a gay Mexican superhero, someone I could finally relate to in comic books. But ultimately I was unimpressed with the general storyline and the writing. That’s when I decided to stop collecting until I found a series I wanted to be devoted to.
Trade copies ended up being a more economical decision for me and I found ways of catching up to Marvel specifically the Joss Whedon run of X-Men, Young Avengers and Civil War. Lately I’ve been reading Marvel again and am kind of interested in seeing what Wiccan and Hulkling have been up to. I also would like to catch up with the X-Men now that Bobby Drake has “come out of the closet”. Most recently I’ve been reading Nightwing and Batgirl as well as The Mighty Thor and trying to catch up with Miles Morales’s story as Spiderman. I also read the comics my brother and dad collect which include Captain America and Wonder Woman.
I’m definitely excited about the new slate of superhero movies coming up and I quite enjoy the fact that they are slowly becoming a genre in themselves, no longer just considered just action movies.
8. Any non-kinky interests or hobbies?
Non-kinky interests eh? Well Sci-fi/fantasy/comics are a major interest of mine that I mostly post on my fet-free tumblr. I watch a fair amount of geeky TV like Doctor Who, Flash, Arrow, Supergirl, Star Trek shows on Netflix, Firefly and am getting into London Spy recently.
I’m a huge Tolkien fan after having read Lord of the Rings and the Silmarillion in High School and have started working on my own fantasy story. I used to create languages and write fantasy stories back in the day before I was graduate student. I’m hoping I can use some of my new found free time to pull those early works into the novel.
Other non-geeky, non-kinky interests would be things like architecture and urban design. I love visiting a new city and just exploring how buildings fit into their surroundings. I try to go on historic tours of cities, especially if there’s a seedy history involved. I love seeing how cities integrate greens into their plans. San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park and Seattle’s Arboretum are so far the most amazing green spaces I have been to. While I’m not a fan of roughing it in the woods and camping I love going on hikes and long walks.
Before I left academia I was a pretty big sex nerd; fetish and kink weren’t just hobbies to me they were fascinating aspects of human culture and history as well. I still research sex history and things like that. I love reading about brothels and the sex lives of cities in the past and today. I still think I might go back to get a PhD in some kind of sexuality studies or try to be a sex therapist, but I still need time to recover from my burn out. I’m somewhat involved in feminist and social justice movements locally, less so now that I have a public sector job (it’s a tricky line to tread in some cases).
9. Do you have any message or advice for someone who’s new to the lycra scene?
First bit of advice I would give to new lycra kinksters would probably be: don’t feel pressured to get the fanciest zentai or cosplay level superhero suit, especially when one can’t afford it. I know when I was younger I couldn’t afford even a $50 zentai on ebay much less a cosplay level suit that could cost upwards of $200 or so. Luckily spandex gear isn’t as expensive as leather, rubber or latex, I love the fact that lycra/spandex are more ubiquitous now in athletic gear which makes it easier to find. When buying spandex for kink play it’s okay not to be into labels. Generic brands of lycra athletic and compression gear work just as well and can get messed up more easily. Under Armor is expensive and might not be the best thing to use when you want to do an abduction roleplay where you could get it torn up, cut off or soiled. And they will get dirty.
Third bit of advice: wash your gear. Wash in cold water and on as gentle a cycle as possible, hand-washing is best but not always convenient. Hang dry your gear and it will last you longer than if you put it in the dryer. Cum and silicone lube can stain spandex if you leave it on too long; if you can wash it soon after sexy times do so.
If you can, learn to sew zippers, especially if you get a zentai suit. I cannot count all the times I have had to replace zippers on suits because they ripped open, got caught or the tab broke off. I don’t know why zentai manufacturers put the zipper in the back, with the flimsiest tabs, but it’s always in a location that is inconvenient and involves a lot of twisting and contorting. Sewing my own zippers has been a good ability to have.
Finally, try to be comfortable in your skin and in your second skin. It’s advice I still struggle with following to this day. Spandex can be a wonderful fabric but it is also an unforgiving one, especially when one is raised in a body obsessed culture as ours. It’s tight against the body and yet at the same time gives enough to hug every curve. The silhouette of one’s body is almost enhanced by the fabric; however, to me that is the hottest thing about it. It covers a person but at the same time leaves them as vulnerable as though they were naked. Spandex will show off muscle just as well as it will show off a belly or reveal one’s bum is not as perky as they might like it. Not everyone will look like the models in porn movies or the muscled guys on Tumblr and the gym who wear lycra in public and that’s ok, in fact that’s great. Fat, skinny, muscled, toned and every body type in between can wear lycra and lycra fits on every type of body.
I know I sometimes obsess about how far my belly protrudes out or how my barrel-chest looks in a suit. I worry sometimes that I don’t look just right or like this guy or that guy I saw posing in the gym. When that voice does start bringing me down I try to be kind to myself. I avoid the mirror or the scale, close my eyes and just feel myself in the fabric. That sometimes helps me to remember why I enjoy it and why it’s just as much about feel as it is about image.
Fantastic answers! I hope that story with Tynan made you just as hard as it did me. Although it seems I made my own impression, so that’s pretty hot too! I definitely thank TheSideKink for all his time and insight into his answers. Hope you enjoyed!
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